It would seem that parents should love their heirs disinterestedly and with all their heart. But often there is a cynical and consumerist attitude between family members - the older generation counts on the support of the young. But are children obliged to help their parents in old age? Rambler analyzed social networks to find the answer to this question.
In many families, children are taught from childhood that they should help their parents when they retire. These beliefs can be based on different feelings, such as feelings of gratitude or guilt. However, growing up, children become independent units. They fly out of the nest, acquire their own families and they do not always have the resource, both material and emotional, to take care of their parents as well.
“My husband and I are retirees - 62 and 65 years old. The pension is small, and the house needs major repairs: replace the roof, make a bathroom, and much more. You need a lot of money. And the son and daughter-in-law do not want to help. The daughter got married, moved in with her son-in-law and also does not want to help her parents, but she and her son-in-law bought a car and furniture, went to the sea in the summer. I understand that they already have children and also need a lot, but if you bought a car, then why didn't you think about the fact that they gave birth to live in tattered walls. That the daughter-in-law, that the son-in-law as strangers - do not help in any way. These are ungrateful children. We raised them, went out, brought them up. I was hoping for help in my old age, but it turned out to be none”,
- the pensioner shared her story.
It turns out that in such situations, parents behave selfishly. They believe that children owe them for the rest of their days, no matter what kind of relationship they have built with their heirs over the years.
“You must understand that no one owes you anything in life, not even children. They did not ask you to give birth to them. This is a bitter truth, but every adult must be prepared for the fact that adult children will live their own lives,”
- said the anonymous author.
Parents should not shift responsibility for their lives onto their children. Indeed, in this case, their child simply will not be able to breathe deeply when he becomes an adult. He will carry the burden of duty all the time.
““I gave birth to you so that you could make my life better”- this is how these people think, and in everyday life I meet them everywhere. I noticed that ardent communists think so more often. At first the state was obliged to them, then everything was thrown onto the children. A loving parent will be glad that a son or daughter bought a car and went on vacation, and not money will be counted”,
- noted a web user.