These words can hurt a child and distort his attitude. Sometimes it seems to us that an inadvertently thrown phrase is just a sound: the child will hear and after a while will forget. But in reality this is not the case. Psychologists never tire of repeating that parental words are peculiar attitudes that can get stuck in a child's head for a long time and affect his adult life. Today we will talk about dangerous phrases that are so often heard by the youngest children in the family. Try never to pronounce them! But a sister (brother) at your age, a Child only grows happy when loved ones accept him for who he is. This is unconditional parental love. “And here is your older brother” - every family has its own continuation of this dangerous reproach phrase. Don't make your toddler fit to certain standards. This framework will not allow you to see individuality in the child, and he himself will not be formed as a person. And how it should be "My children are so different, but everyone has their own talents." Take a closer look at what you think is “less successful,” and you will see virtues in him that deserve praise. Look at your brother, he has already eaten everything! And you sit like a princess To urge on a child while eating is to instill in him bad eating habits. First, the child gets used to eating without pleasure. Secondly, he does not have time to chew food normally. Thirdly, it does not learn to understand the feelings of hunger. All this in the future can lead to eating disorders, which threatens health problems. And how it should be “Today the porridge is so tasty that Petya ate it in three minutes. Try it - you should like it too! " Thus, the child wakes up an interest in food, and with it - an appetite. Did not work out? It's okay if the baby is left without breakfast - at least, he will learn to be aware of the feeling of hunger, and next time he will happily eat his porridge. Actually, I did not plan to give birth to so many children. Some mothers say this phrase with a sigh and look at the youngest child. Children are very egocentric, and due to their lack of experience, they have not yet formed critical thinking. Be sure that the child will write down such statements to his own account. As a result, his whole life can be accompanied by feelings of guilt ("It's my fault that my mother's plans were violated") and self-doubt ("I am not worthy that they want my birth"). Toddlers do not need to know about your family plans in the past - it is better to remain silent! But if you have already mentioned it, be more gentle. And the right way “We used to think that our family would be smaller. But it's great that you were born! " In fact, it really is! You cannot cope with this, give it to your sister (brother) Against the background of older brothers and sisters, younger children do everything too slowly and poorly. At least, this is how it seems to parents who are always in a hurry somewhere and are not ready to devote time to the baby. Washing the dishes, putting together a set, drawing a postcard for grandfather, fulfilling some important assignment from parents - not only older children should participate in all this. Allow your baby to learn important skills and participate in household chores, even if there are more skilled helpers in the house. Do not say: “You cannot cope with this, let your brother do it!”, Such phrases do not educate a child in self-confidence and independence. And how to do it "Try to do it yourself, and if it is difficult, we will help!" And in no case blame the child when something does not work out for him! And your brother (sister) studies better than you! If the older sister or brother learned to count / read at the age of 3, and the younger did not master this skill by the age of 6, this is not a reason for reproaches and comparisons. First, each case is different. Secondly, such comparisons will certainly not make the child smarter, but can destroy self-esteem. And third, try using stimulating phrases. How to do it “Your brother knows the secret of good grades - you have to study a lot. What do you think will happen if you try to put in more effort? " At least for a junior student, such words are likely to cheer up! You are still too young Younger children are often “too young” for going to the movies, cycling, going to the mountains, discussing some family topics “Are you too young to know this family secret”, “This film is for older children, we cannot take you with him. " Even if you are right, such words sound very offensive. In this case, the child will not feel like a full-fledged member of the family. No matter how difficult the topic of conversation turns out to be, you can always find the right words. And how it should be “We are ready to explain everything to you! You can ask us any question. " Be sure to answer children's questions in words that are understandable for his age, but do it without the phrase "You are still too young to understand this." Photo: Depositphotos Editor-in-chief of Letidor Ksenia Krasnova is raising parents! How? Watch TikTok!
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