Friends are an important part of our life. And school friendships are no exception!
A friend is one who will not give up in trouble, lend his shoulder in difficult times, share both sadness and joy. How to help a child to socialize and teach him to be friends correctly?
Marina Popova, a teacher-psychologist at the City Psychological and Pedagogical Center of Moscow, gives her practical advice, where, within the framework of the Foresight of Professional Success project, free classes are held for children, including the acquisition of communication skills.
Take a closer look at yourself
Dear adults, let's turn to ourselves and assess what we mean by the concept of "friendship", with whom and how we are friends. Do each of you have such a person in your life who can be called a friend? How many years have you been friends with him? In what situations did you help or support each other? What experiences do you want to share with your child, regardless of their age?
After all, in order to teach someone something, it is desirable to be able to do it yourself.
Do you agree?
Filling out such a "checklist" will help you decide what you would like to focus on in a conversation with your child on this topic, and choose the optimal format of the conversation.
Share your experience
Getting started is one of the hardest parts of any conversation.
Share your experience: Tell us how you helped your girlfriend or friend in a difficult life situation.
For example, they explained the material they missed at school during their illness, because they were sincerely friends with this person, were attached to him and appreciated his human qualities, and friends come to help each other.
So you will be able to unobtrusively build a conversation about important things, and your own positive emotions will make it sincere and help you find the right words.
Tell us what a true friend should be
Surely your child has guys with whom he communicates more often. Are they real friends? How to determine? You can, of course, discuss what qualities attract your child to these people, how they behave in different situations, whether it can be assumed that this is how real friends should behave, and so on. Or you can choose a different format.
Watching a movie together can revive such a conversation with a student. Based on it, you can make a list that "a friend never"
For example, will never tell other people things that are important to you that you entrusted him and did not want anyone else to know about it;
will never intentionally hurt you, offend, embarrass you;
will never be inattentive to the "little things" in your friendship.
Create opportunities for communication
Often people are united by joint activities. And children sometimes also unite due to common interests:
Friendship arises among the guys who attend the sports section, theatrical circle, listen to the same music, are passionate about the same book, and so on.
Pay attention to this and create opportunities for interaction.
Joint birthday celebrations, family trips to nature, and a trip to visit each other are perfect for this.
Teach to help
It so happens that a loved one acts badly. For example, it goes against generally accepted rules and demonstrates not the best human qualities. Draw the child's attention to the possibility of such a situation. And advise not to rush to conclusions.
Let the child know that the ability to find the strength to voice the problem and together find a way out of the current situation is another step towards friendship.
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