Step-by-step techniques to help your child focus, do unloved homework, memorize a verse, and learn to focus.
Maria Piotrovskaya, founder of the Association of Parents and Children with Dyslexia:
Our association was founded to help children and adults with difficulties such as dyslexia, dysgraphia and dyscalculia. They started talking actively about these problems quite recently. But ADHD (attention deficit hyperactivity disorder) has been discussed for a long time, society knows about its existence and the difficulties that children face. ADHD is clearly expressed by difficulties in learning, including difficulties in concentration, perseverance, and perception of educational material. ADHD specialists offer a number of measures to correct these manifestations. These measures can be used for children diagnosed with attention deficit hyperactivity disorder or simply to help a child without ADHD cope with their studies more easily. If you see that the child is restless and constantly distracted, and you are trying with him, for example, to learn a poem, try to take a closer look at how he better perceives your speech? Maybe it's easier for him to twist something in his hands, push a ball under the table, or maybe listen to you and draw at the same time? In May, at the webinar site of the Association of Parents and Children with Dyslexia, a teacher, journalist, administrator of the forum "Our Inattentive Hyperactive Children" Irina Lukyanova will read a series of webinars on this topic.
Irina Lukyanova, teacher, journalist, administrator of the forum "Our Inattentive Hyperactive Children":
Classes with a hyperactive child at home require a lot of calmness and self-organization from the adult who deals with him: in fact, it is difficult to organize a child if you yourself are constantly distracted and nervous. Doing homework with a child is a nervous activity. And it is nervous because the child does not want to work and cannot, the adult turns out to be powerless to cope with this situation and tries to influence the child by persuasion, shouting, pressure, coercion. To make things easier, you need to rethink how you work together on homework. The first thing that helps is to take the right position in relation to the child: an adult is not an overseer for a negligent slave, not a boss who requires an impeccable job from a subordinate. He does not need the work itself as such, he needs the child to learn how to do this work himself. This means that the adult's help is not to make the child work, but to motivate him, teach him how to do the right thing and check himself.
The adult's role is to help, not coerce. It depends on him how confident the child will feel, how much he believes in himself and his ability to cope with difficult work.
The second is the correct organization of the process: the more inattentive the child is, the more role the parent has to take on in organizing the process. It is necessary to help the child develop the usual algorithms: first remove the excess from the table, then put the necessary on the table. Check the task in the electronic diary, collect the missing items from friends. This is already a big preparatory part. Did you manage? - well. You can take a break - but not with a gadget, but jump, for example.
The second big part is the lessons themselves. What's for tomorrow, the day after tomorrow? Do I need to do part of a big project a month in advance? What to do first, second, last? To start hard or easy? You can together mark the necessary tasks in the textbooks and make bookmarks in them.Write on a piece of paper a list of tasks for today, hang it in front of your eyes and cross out those that have already been done. Watch out for pauses in work: tired - take a rest (but don't use gadgets, they will immediately draw all the attention to yourself). At the same time, you can learn self-observation and self-control: will you have time to do your homework in one hour? For one and a half? How much time do you need for three subjects? But for this, it would be good for the parent first to observe how long the child is able to maintain active attention, how much he needs to rest between classes, what rest methods are better than others.
It is pointless to scold a child for mistakes - this will discourage him from any desire to work further. Better to help him find his mistakes, correct them carefully and praise for what turned out well.
If the child is very hyperactive, he can be allowed to read while standing or sitting on a fitball, crumple a toy in his hands (soft silicone toys with numerous tentacles or pimples on sale now are very good for this), press an expander - in a word, make small physical movements that help maintain concentration on the subject. But swinging on a chair is better not.
If the child is still small and has serious problems with motivation, at first, you can additionally reward him for each piece of work completed - say, chips that can be exchanged for some kind of prize, or small candies. Over time, the need for these awards will disappear, and the skill of dividing large work into small parts will remain. But paying money for lessons learned or good grades is a bad idea: this work is still needed by the child himself, not by the parents. Of course, in one small publication it is impossible to tell in detail about the small tricks that help to do homework with an inattentive child. My book Extreme Motherhood, which focuses on raising hyperactive, inattentive, impulsive and disorganized children, has an entire chapter devoted to homework. And from May 11, on Mondays, at the Dyslexic Parents and Children Association site, I will be hosting a series of webinars for teachers on how to help children with ADHD in the classroom. Come! And bring your children's teachers.