In Simferopol, the mother of many children, Valentina Tarasenko, is seeking the right to take custody of the orphan Viktor. The boy's mother, Elena Chemeris, died of oncology in April, and a few weeks before that she wrote a statement with a request to give her son to the Tarasenko family to be raised. It was these people who sheltered her when she had nowhere to go, and helped to pick up her son from the orphanage, where the boy ended up due to the fact that Elena was seriously ill. As Valentina says, the guardianship authorities told her that they would not be allowed to take custody of the child, since they already have seven children in their family. As the ombudsman for children's rights in Crimea, Irina Klyueva, explained to RT, Viktor has a grandfather who lives in Ukraine. He was offered to take Victor, but the man himself is in no hurry to draw up the necessary documents for this.
In Crimea, the guardianship authorities have not yet begun to fulfill the last will of the young woman Elena Chemeris, who died in early April. She suffered from cancer, and a few weeks before her death, she wrote a statement in which she asked to transfer custody of her one-year-old son to the Tarasenko family. However, now the guardianship authorities refuse Tarasenko due to the fact that the child has a close relative - a grandfather who lives in Kiev.
There are no bad children
36-year-old Crimean woman Valentina Tarasenko and her husband Dmitry are raising seven children - five relatives and two adopted. Once the spouses had their own restaurant, but now they devote all their time to raising children and charity work. Dmitry simultaneously works as a storekeeper in one of the Simferopol schools.
For many years, Valentina Tarasenko, who taught choreography, volunteered to help arrange children in families that were abandoned by their parents. In 2012, Tarasenko once again found herself in the hospital, in the ward of abandoned children. There she saw the boy Nikita. The child was diagnosed with mild mental retardation and autism spectrum disorder, as well as hydrocephalus and Robin's syndrome (a defect of the maxillofacial region, in particular the presence of a cleft in the palate).
“When he was born, he suffered a cerebral hemorrhage. I saw him in intensive care and realized that he would have a chance to survive only in his family, but no one would take it,”Tarasenko recalls.
Then the woman decided to take Nikita under guardianship, but the family managed to draw up all the documents only after a year and a half. In 2016, the family adopted another child who also had serious health problems.
“He had a brain damage in question. But most importantly, he had a fatal alcohol syndrome. Almost ten families abandoned it. Well, people don't want to take children of alcoholics! " - recalls Tarasenko.
According to Valentina, abnormalities at birth affect the development of her son, but the family continues to fight for his health.
Tarasenko said that as part of her volunteer work, she organized a post of nannies to care for seriously ill children-refuseniks.
“And they accuse me that I wanted to earn money. Refuseniks are in hospitals without a nanny, unaccompanied. Where does the guardianship look? I organized the care of refuseniks, and they accuse me of not being able to take care of the child! " - the woman is perplexed.
I wanted to find a family
The mother of the child, for whom the Tarasenko family is now fighting, Elena Chemeris, moved to Crimea from the Kirovograd region in 2013 with her husband. Before that, they lost their daughter - the girl died after a week in intensive care. Soon, Elena's husband also died, and as a result, the woman was left alone in the Crimea. She had no money, and they did not take to work.
“She was a pretty girl, but she stuttered a lot. This is from childhood, she even studied at the boarding school. Therefore, she was able to find a job only in the field, but she received pennies for it, which were enough to be nailed somewhere, '' Valentina Tarasenko told RT.
According to Tarasenko, in the village of Chemeris they helped as best they could. But the girl could not change her Ukrainian passport to a Russian one.
Later, Chemeris began dating a local resident, the teacher's son. In January 2018, she gave birth to a son, Victor, from him.
As Tarasenko told RT, Chemeris did not feel well during pregnancy. After giving birth, her health deteriorated sharply, and because of this, the child was taken to an orphanage.
“She had a fever for almost the entire period. Pregnancy strongly contributes to the development of oncology. After giving birth, she did not feel better, and the doctors removed her uterus. Community activists got involved in the situation, since she did not have a passport, they raised funds to do a biopsy,”says Tarasenko.
The young mother was diagnosed with stage III Hodgkin's lymphoma (cancer of the lymphatic system).
“In March-April 2018, we began surgical treatment, conducted chemotherapy courses. Half of Crimea collected money for her treatment, someone donated food and things,”Tarasenko recalls.
Chemeris continued to live in the village of Stalnoye and came to Simferopol for treatment.
“She visited her son at Yolochka, where she was offered to conclude a tripartite agreement for the duration of her illness. She wanted to take him away, but the guardianship officials in Dzhankoy told her that she had no conditions,”the woman said.
The child's father, according to Tarasenko, is not included in the son's birth certificate, because he does not have a Russian passport. As Valentina notes, he is hiding from paying alimony for other children.
In the summer of 2018, Chemeris again turned to caring people for help. It was then that Tarasenko, who has been doing charity work for many years, found out about a girl with cancer and decided to help.
“I needed a cot and a stroller, but I just had unnecessary ones. She came out to meet me: young, thin, with no hair on her head and stuttering. She was so happy about things, thanked us,”Tarasenko recalls.
According to her, despite the illness, Chemeris really wanted to take the child from the orphanage. Then the volunteers decided to help the cancer patient buy a village house where she rented a house. As noted by Tarasenko, initially the landlord planned to sell it for 120 thousand rubles, so the community members began collecting the required amount, but then the price rose sharply to 400 thousand rubles.
“She didn’t have any documents, and with her own housing the process of obtaining a Russian passport would have accelerated significantly. But the mistress of the house wanted 400 thousand rubles, and it was completely ugly. As a result, the hostess just kicked her out into the street one day because we did not agree to the terms of sale,”says Tarasenko.
As a result, Valentina offered Chemeris to move to her in Simferopol. In October 2018, the Tarasenko family helped Chemeris get a new passport, and the girl managed to take her son from the orphanage.
“At first we looked closely at her, but she turned out to be such a crystal clear person - she helped with the housework, did not ask for anything. She was imbued with our homely friendly atmosphere and felt that she was in a family that she just missed,”the woman said.
You won't get a baby
All this time, Chemeris continued treatment, but the disease did not recede. According to Tarasenko, anticipating an imminent death, Chemeris herself turned to her with a request to take custody of her son in case of her death.
In January 2019, they went together to the Department of Children's Affairs of Simferopol to write a statement about custody of young Victor in the event of the death of his mother. Such a right is provided for in clause 1 of article 13 of the Federal Law 48-FZ "On guardianship and trusteeship." On February 14, 2019, Chemeris' statement was adopted. On April 3, Elena died.
According to Tarasenko, she has not yet received an official refusal from the guardianship authorities. But she was told that they could not transfer the child to her, since she was already raising seven children. Without waiting for a formal refusal, the woman turned to the prosecutor's office.
“Due to the fact that we have a large family, they are looking for something to find fault with and convict me of being an unscrupulous adoptive parent. Therefore, they plan to refuse me,”she explained.
According to Tarasenko, she meets all the criteria for an adoptive parent: her health is normal, no criminal record, good living conditions.
“In Russia, on the contrary, the legislation is aimed at simplifying the adoption process. But they are trying to complicate it. They tell me that first I will become a candidate for adoptive parents, then we will be assigned a number, there will be many other families in front of us in line. But my mother wrote a statement! " - Tarasenko wonders.
Relatives are a priority
The Commissioner for Children's Rights in Crimea, Irina Klyueva, confirmed to RT that Chemeris wrote an application for the transfer of her son to the custody of Valentina Tarasenko in February 2019. Klyueva also noted that Tarasenko herself turned to her due to the fact that the guardianship did not transfer the child to her.
The Ombudsman explained that the main obstacle to the transfer of Tarasenko's child is the fact that Viktor has a blood relative - a citizen of Ukraine Vladimir Chemeris, who is his grandfather.
“The guardianship authorities contacted Chemeris by phone. As a result, the grandfather confirmed his desire to take Victor into his family. The guardianship authorities set certain terms for him to come and document his rights to the child, because he cannot think for a long time whether he will take the baby or not,”Klyueva said. According to her, a man should make a decision within about a month. During this time, the relative must also collect all the documents and arrange travel to the territory of Crimea.
The Ombudsman confirmed that she personally contacted the guardianship authorities and asked not to make hasty decisions in relation to Viktor Chemeris.
“The legislation of the Russian Federation allows adoption by foreign citizens, with the exception of US citizens. A native person, a citizen of whatever country he is, has a priority right,”the Ombudsman concluded.
RT contacted Vladimir Chemeris, who lives in Kiev. He confirmed that he was ready to take Viktor from Crimea if the guardianship authorities provide him with documents confirming the death of his daughter and the birth of his grandson. Chemeris stressed that for the period established by the Crimean guardianship, he will not have time to collect the necessary papers, and first he needs to receive confirmation that his daughter has died.
According to him, the last time he spoke with Elena was at the end of March, and now her phone is not available. Chemeris worries that scammers can hide behind his grandson in order to take possession of half of his apartment in Kiev, registered in the name of his deceased daughter.
“Why don't they want to send me copies of Elena's death certificate and her grandson's birth certificate? How do I know if this is true? In words, an unknown woman Svetlana Ivanovna (head of the department for children in Simferopol - RT) reports to me that her daughter has died. Maybe it's all fake? Some kind of fraudulent activity? " - concluded the man with disbelief.
In addition, Vladimir doubts that his grandson is healthy, and also does not speak too flatteringly about his daughter.
“Lena studied at a boarding school for mentally retarded children. I have information from a boyfriend-roommate that he refuses that child, because Lena walked him up with some homeless people, "Chemeris said.