With the appearance of a child in the family, a new stage begins - happy, interesting and at the same time very difficult. From that moment on, the woman gives almost all of her time to the baby. What do young mothers usually face? 1. Change of the usual way of life
For women who worked, traveled, conducted interesting projects and had many friends and acquaintances before the birth of a baby, the need to adapt to the regime and needs of the child can become a great stress, which in some cases develops into depression.
- And if “well-wishers” appear next to them with the same “what did you want?”, “Why did you give birth?” and the like, it only makes the situation worse. The way out of the problem is to find compromises that will make you feel needed, useful and diversify the same days, says Dmitry Sobolev, a psychologist, family and personal expert. 2. Husband does not help
The young dad needs to try to be there and help.
- Moreover, not only to take on some of the responsibilities around the house, but also to provide psychological support. If a man is "not mature" and constantly withdraws from his duties or continues to behave like a "big child", there are two ways out. Either he needs to change (a family counselor can help with this), or the woman will probably have to raise the issue of continuing such a relationship. Each situation must be dealt with individually, - the specialist explains. 3. "I will do everything myself"
In such a situation, a woman takes all responsibilities upon herself, leaving no time for herself at all. Moreover, the young mother even deliberately refuses the opportunity to invite a grandmother or nanny.
- A woman on maternity leave should have personal time. At least a little, but preferably every day. This is the time that she can devote only to herself: read a book, watch a movie, go somewhere, lie in the bath or just relax and sleep. Internal attitudes often interfere with “resting from a child is bad,” “I still can't relax,” “this is not available to me,” the psychologist notes.
4. Striving to be the perfect mom
There is no perfect person. Everyone makes mistakes. Everybody constantly does not have enough time for something.
“Excessive perfectionism not only quickly leads to burnout and depression, but can also have a very bad effect on family relationships,” the expert explains.
5. Pressure from your spouse or relatives
Only a woman has the right to decide such issues as the continuation of breastfeeding, the resumption of intimate life, the daily routine.
- If others create additional stress and conflict, it is important to set boundaries and boundaries. The life of a woman on maternity leave is already, in a sense, regular stress, emphasizes Dmitry Sobolev. - If you are a mother, and you are constantly under stress, do not receive attention and help from your husband, do not see friends for months, your life has become monotonous, and you have forgotten what a feeling of joy and happiness is, this must be corrected! A lot depends on your condition.
Alesya Kotova. Photo: pixabay.com